Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Presence and Omnipresence

Its funny how you're quite comfortable with your life until you realise what you've been missing for a long time...when the memory of how it felt to have it all stares you in the face teasingly...and how even stranger it feels when you realise that the memory didn't visit you through the years and decided to just now. And then you think of all the people because of whom you didn't realise what you were missing...or you wonder why it took you so long to fathom the depth of some small things that are always taken for granted... and you don't know whether to be thankful or reproachful. Maybe its all about time... maybe its all about the level of understanding...its all about how much things can change in a few months.

We had a family reunion. Now you could go ahead and think its a whole big family of 124 members who came from all over the universe. :) Nope... just 4 of us. My immediate family. My father, my mother and my brother. And the past month...has been a festival at home. That should explain the first paragraph that you'd have given your raised eyebrows to a while back! :) But hell... sometimes you have such big realisations, revelations that they could choke you to tears.

Thus...i dedicate this post to 4 people. First... to the best man in my world - my father ( all those of you who were expecting johnny depp there, too bad!;-)). I don't know why sometimes things hit you harder...its taken me 7 years to realise the love, the concern and the protection i've been missing, with that tinge of hidden pride he has for his kids :) Next ofcourse to the best woman i know - my mother. Lets not even start on how much importance she holds in the life we run here... her absence sometimes is very dearly felt. And then... to the second best man in my world - My brother. For a million things i cant even list out...even for that expression on his face when am giving him a head massage! God bless :)
Now the 4th... its to all those people who've been there when neither of the above were there...even though they are in a way, omnipresent... there's nothing like presence :) So the list would have to start with my grandparents...and then all those friends...who i spent hours on the phone and online with, laughing, gossiping, holding small talk with...

There was once when my mother told me when we were chatting online that her kids are always with her...that every morning when she's praying, she calls us by our names and makes us sit with her infront of God.... and her kids have such small palms...they're so tiny...her daughter is dressed in a frock...and they all sit, and pray together. I dont think anything she ever said before that in the 20 years of my life ever affected me so much. I guess those are our Godly parents...

Whacky stuff to wrap it off... i think Neo sports has some illegal connection with the football club Manchester city. Whenever i watch the channel, they have a Man.City match in which it wins! That to against liverpool and ManU! How unfair is that? ;-)

Yours "Kanden, Seethaiyai"ly
Signing off....

34 comments:

Anonymous said...

touching post..
"I don't know why sometimes things hit you harder.." it reminds me of this scene it's like there's this guy with the big hammer, takes the hammer baaaaaaaaaaack and then hit the thing to be hit so that it hits hard enough and makes a mark so that it stays. :P
And WHEN did Man City win against liverpool and ManU??

Div said...

suk - :) I like the hammer scene :) and thats the thing that made me come up with the illegal connection hypothesis... they keep playin matches like that! which took place 5 or 6 years ago! And they beat ManU 3-1! and Liverpool, Owen's so helpless... God its a conspiracy! Lol

Anonymous said...

yes it is!! they put matches that were played FIVE or SIX years back??
In that case Beckham would have still been playing.. and manU stilllost 3-1.. nice.

Div said...

suk - YEAH! Lol... but i couldn see him playing. I don think he played that match. But Nistelrooy was there! Dono. And ManU lost so badly in champion's league semifinals yest :( Vs AC Milan, which had half the italian team! So finals is goin to be liverpool vs ac milan :( :( Yeah chelsea lost semis to liverpool. Yenyway, football *sigh*.

My theory - when manU play in white, that to full sleeves, its bad luck! Do u rmbr england? They lost to badly during the WC...they were dressed in white full hand. And Beck cried...

Anonymous said...

lol. you know I had a similar theory but it was proved wrong. I thought everytime I wore my Argentina t-shirt, they would win cus they had thrashed S&M and won against some other country too but they lost against Germany :(:(
aah ofcourse i remember that match. with all the yellow cards and all.
AC Milan had half the Italian team! How come you weren't supporting them?
An all english club final would have been nice.

Div said...

suk - yeah i know these superstitions flop. Stil, we don stop having them. Even i was wearing a beck t-shirt on that day! Anyway, germany's a good team... and comin to ac milan. When it comes to clubs... i've been a manU fan, period. From kenya. But back then, u were either a manU supporter, or arsenal. Things r diff now... ManU's been playin well despite losing who we thot were its best...i love them for that. Now we know they have better than wat we thot were its best, but seeing them not perform when they need to is so disheartening! I never knew milan has so many azzuris...esp pirlo! Love him! He has class... and for the first time, i hated gattuso on th field. Used to love him in italy cuz he's such a bull!!! He charges directly, he plays well, he plays rough, he fouls, he's dirty, he pushes n pulls n gets away with it. Yest, seeing him mark C.Ronaldo...God it was so so sad. And rooney and giggs seemed non-existent. Defence was weak...and it rained! Soccer in the rain! The match was milan's. They deserved it. But the last goal by gilardino was too much, it shouldn have happened! And they had good defence. I guess that is only expected from an italian team. Anyway, like u said, liverpool manU wud have been interesting... i've not made up my mind if am supportin milan or liverpool. Its pirlo vs gerrard!
;-)

Div said...

boy do i love football talk or wat!

Div said...

somehow, i knew that the max comments wud emerge from the last para of my post!

Anonymous said...

yeah very true. I remember even until recently, it was Man U or arsenal and then it was liverpool and then it was either real madrid or Barca.. No one used to support teams like Bayern Munich and all much.
It just proves that Man U is a real "team" unlike others like real madrid. *ppft*But seeing any good team and team that you support not perform well is heartening.
Soccer in the rain would have been really nice..
And it's the 2nd time Liverpool vs. A C Milan final and last time it ended in penalty and shevchenko missed!! Ah.. i was so happy :D
And it seems that pirlo has been there in Milan for a long time.
I've never seen Gattuso play, or I haven't noticed him.
They might have deserved it but I still wanted Man U to win!!anyway it's ok they can top the EPL table.
I'm no Italy fan so I'll be supporting Liverpool. And gattuso better not mark gerrard!

Div said...

suk - Bayern Munich actually have some decent players... i saw one of their matches on Neo sports (which was surprisingly not against manchester city!). Podolski, schweinsteiger and some other german players. I rmbr Nisterooy was s'posed to go there...but then he went to madrid, n made glory for himself!You dono who gattuso is cuz u never supported italy...and am sure they'll assign him to gerrard ;-) Like in this semifinal match, am sure they assigned him to Christiano! The poor fellow was always marked by 2 people, one of them being gattuso. And then gattuso wud foul him, and they'd get a free kick, but beckham was not around to convert them to goals. Sadness! But gattuso did eventually get a yellow card. I din know abt pirlo...but now i know :D He's baggio's descendant! Trained by the master himself!And i love the way his hair bounces;-) And the way he takes the free kicks..true class! ManU better get to EPL finals...!

Anonymous said...

Really? He was trained by Baggio?? No wonder you like him so much.
Good thing that Gattuso got a yellow cared, if he played such a rough game he deserved it. And two people for one player is a bit too much.
And not to forget Ballack was in Bayern Munich and Oliver Kahn was goalkee.
And no one can " bend it like beckham"

Div said...

suk - am loving the quick comments! Yeah no wonder i liek him so much ;-) Actually, i found out abt the baggio thing much later... much after i started likin him alot. So that din affect my decision of liking him ;-)oh yeah... ballack n kahn. Kahn! Ballack had to go to chelsea... anyway, well said suk - bend it like beckham! But i have a feeling pirlo can ;-)

Anonymous said...

he he but it sure must have increased your love for him. btw do you love him or just really like? Pirlo can't bend it like beckham. :D :D Well not that I've seen him play, but still. I just like to think he can't :P
yes kahn! Ah you know it seems that in the 2002 WC he left those 2 goals only in the finals. And he looked so sad after they lost, he was captain and all and they went till the finals and they lost! cha.
And I remember right after they won the WC, Brazil team players kneeled down and started to pray.
And why do you like Baggio so much? He missed the penalty in 1992, and you must have been say about 5 years old and you loved him even then? And well if you didn't and you watched the match and watched him miss the penalty, how come you like him so much even now?
Man I miss watching football!! Can't wait for the finals but I'm not too sure whether I'll come. :(
Just one thing-- in football, captain is only about wearing the yellow band no? And lifting any cup you win first :D And that's something ,and leading your team to the field..
You that's something nice. Cus the whole team is involved the thought process, completely, and not just the captain.

Div said...

suk - How does it matter if i love him or if i really like him? Am not going to marry him or something! Trust me, he can bend it really well... after seeing him do it was when i was all awed. Even in the milan match, one of his passes was only converted to a goal... the 2nd goal. Yeah i rmbr that abt kahn n 2002. But they din let him play in 2006...damn. It was lehman the idiot.

You have such a valid question there... why do i like Baggio? correction, the world cup was in 1994. I was seven years old. At that time, baggio had a pony tail, he was called the divine pony tail. The goalie at that time was among our faves, his name was pagliuca, but he was nicknamed the magic cat. How do i remember all this? I dont know. Its just all in there. Why do i like baggio when he missed the most crucial penalty? Italy wouldn have gotten to the finals if he wasn in the team. He led them to the finals, and then made it an anticlimax. But italy got out of their jinx of losing in any penalty shoot outs only last year... till then, they lost every match that ended in penalties (almost). So last year, italy was destined to lift that cup :)I like him because that world cup was my first realisation of football...of team spirit...of loss. I love del piero till today because he was also in that match. There was another baggio called Dino Baggio...there was Maldini who retired after 2002 WC (he had green eyes!!!. Its so weid to even think that i was only 7 years old...and i rmbr a football match so well! how?! It was kind of planted into me...alot of people in kenya love the italian team. U know before the WC fianls, i happened to chat with this guy who was my dad's colleague's son... we used to play together as kids...and we wer eint he same colony during the 94 worldcup... and he said, hey italy is in the finals, do u rmbr baggio? I was like yeah obv! And he was like, italy is going to win! And he's my age... so he remembers too! Some magic there!
Captains... hmm maybe they give pep talks like quidditch ;-) But yeah... football is out and out team spirit.

whew! some comment!

Anonymous said...

lol! 5 years 7 years bid diff.!!
And I know stupid Lehman got to play instead of king kahn... cha. kahn would have done SUCH a better job. Anyway he's officially retired from int. football now :(
Divine ponytail?? I really wonder, even after he got Italy into the finals and all, how a person can call a GUY'S ponytail "divine".. and he led them into the finals and it ended in an anticlimax, what anti-filmy style man, hero will find the villain but the villain will kill him!!!and yeah you told me about the penalty-jinx, how I wish the jinx wasn't broken! I wanted FRance to win :Dand yep definitely sum magic there, true Italian fans I guess.. besides I think in a W C where Italy go to the final and lose, that time an Italian fan will def. remember the game, all the anxieties and all! But yeah I know somethings that happened loooong time ago but I still remember really well and they aren't all good things :D
Btw, how was Dino Baggio? Was he related to Roberto Baggio? Maldini had green eyes!!I want to see him!Happa theses football people no, it's not enough that they play good football eh? They should have these unique features also? Conspiracy .And Del Piero is one of the very few Italian players I know and how do you remember their names? They have weird spellings.

Div said...

suk - I dont think Dino and Roberto were related! U cant say christiano ronaldo n ronaldo are related can u? One lookin so good n the other lookin like a bald coconut with protruding teeth! I like your villain hero concept! lol... very much like that... i dono why he was called the divine ponytail... just maybe cuz he played really well when he had it! And u know, he was in constant trouble with all the coaches that he had... and that sort of was a barrier to his performing well always...sad thing. And looks like its not enough for them to play good football! Despite having unique features, they also look good! How many?! shud i start naming?! No i dont think so...and the hairstyles too! pah! Each WC they have a diff hairstyle! And yeah... maybe its true. We remember disappointments and losses better. Maybe i wouldn be such an italian fan if they'd won in 94! Zidane spoilt it for france ma'am.. ntohing can be done abt it. :D

How do i rmbr their names? Aah... its just inborn azzuri craziness i guess! Lol... like sathya's say - You have azzuri blood in you man, maybe u shud have been born azzuri! And hell, that made me feel very proud for some reason! God am weird!

Anonymous said...

why is it weird? You are Indian, and you're an Italian fan , a die-hard one that too and you've been a fan of that team since you were very young and then sathya says you have azzuri in your blood, you have to be proud!!
And C Ronaldo and Ronaldo don't share the same last name do they?Bald coconut with protruding teeth lol! What summer influence eh? Coconut and all? He's called a divine ponytail but had problems with all the coaches.. interesting..I know I know they HAVE to look good too, damn not fair, wasn't there a time when you were amazing at only ONE thing?hmph. And yeah every WC diff. hairstyle and for Beckham, he has to change it soooo many times! You can't blame ONLY Zidane for it.. ok he lost his temper, he head butted materazzi still France's fate doesn't depend on only zidane.. it's a team sport!! Anyway it's ok. I wasn't supporting France from the beginning anyway so it doesn't matter.

Div said...

suk - so italy was eligible to win because i was supporting them right from the beginning eh? ;-) Yeah beckham changes his hairstyle way too often... maybe cuz he earns more from moelling than from football and gets a perfume named after him and crap LOL! I dono if the ronaldos share last names, but the names on their jerseys are the same! Sure u cant blame zidane...but if zidane was there, one penalty wud have gone in at the shoot outs! And u know wats even sadder suk? When i did a pic search for zidane when iw as making that thing for u, the first pictures that came up were of the head-butt... they forget his whole glorious career and the pics have just the headbutt. Thats a kind of black mark u should allow your temper to get u... its sad.

Div said...

correction - *you should not let

Anonymous said...

oh my God i shyd hav commented b4 loll wot a lng list of comments n all bout ftball, wot a contradicition 2 how senti dat post reely was,nyways i thnk i rd it d nite u posted it n tld u wot i felt bout it,reely touchy n pakka title 4 it man,k u guys continue ur ftball discussions loll i dnt thnk dis blogspace is nough 4 dat though loll ;)

Div said...

sandy - lol! Am so sorry u had to see the long list of football comments we've given ourselves here... i rmbr your comments :) I also liek the title :) Titles arent always pakka, but this one came out well! thanks

Div said...

suk - MAN U ROCKSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!! Yayyy!!!!!!!!!!!!! We got EPL! :D :D :D

did u read wat alex fergurson had said? That even though they were running after alot of silverware this season, this was the main ;-) i loved the line! lol

Too bad for chelsea!

Anonymous said...

I knowww! yaaay! Even though I support liverpool more than Man U,Man U will is my second so better Man U than Chelsea!!! So let's celebrate! And Liverpool have their shot at the UEFA cup so that's compensation!Running after a lot of silverware lol! hey have they gone out of the race for the FA cup, now that they've gone out of UEFA and they've got EPL so only FA cup left. And yeah that's true.. it's sad that after these many glorious years, they show only the head butt.. i guess if you search for Baggio they'll show the penalty miss and his face after that, it is really sad. People remember the bad stuff more than the good stuff, but yeah 1 penalty would have made a difference but I thought they lost on a 2 penalty difference? Well and yeah Beckham earns more thro' other things than football, but you can't say that now cause he's signed this LA Galaxy deal, so there's a competition between the means of getting money for Beckham :P
No no it doesn't mean that Italy won because of you.. it just means that it's not weird to have Italy in your blood even though you're Indian :P Probably you were an Italian in your last birth? :P:P
And I HATE jose Mourinho . He's such a thick headed dumbo. He's so disrespectful . You know it seems he said something about Liverpool and after reaching the UEFa cup Gerrard said " Two finals in 3 years, not bad for a small club" ! I love Gerrard. It served Mourinho fool right. He puts down almost ALL other teams except his and Chelsea have done EXCEPTIONALLY BADLY this team even though they have world class players! Serves them right! In the beginning I didn't have anything much against Chelsea but after Mourinho's comments, I'm only glad they got tied and they didn't win.Stupid Mourinho. But Liverpool lost against Fulham:(:( It's ok they'll come back and win the UEFA cup. But I have a gut feeling AC Milan will win, I just hope they don't!!

Div said...

suk - what do u mean have they gone out of the race for FA? They're in the finals of FA! Its MANU vs Chelsea! And atleast for your virodham with mourinho, manu shud win!! :D And its true, most of baggio's pics are sad :( the only happy one was the one where he has the italian flag wrapped around him..when he was retiring, after his final match. It was a nice pic, its up on my board in my room. I love gerrard too :) And jose is supposed to be a good coach. I din know abt his arrogance though. Thick headed dumbo - LOL! And what u said abt chelsea doing badly with world class players..that title has to go to Real madrid first! but u know wat, the game that chelsea drew with arsenal in EPL, Drogba din play. Neither did ballack of shevchenko. So u take out 2 or 3 good players, n they're dead. Whatever happened to lampard? I read abt the liverpool loss...kinda sad, that to fulham! Now that u mention it, after seeing milan play in the semis, i thought the cup was going to be theirs. Liverpool has a tough game there. Milan's good. Anyway, we've got to wait n see. Abt beckham...competition betn means of earning money indeed! One thing comes to my mind, pardon the irrelevance. Those kids, ant and bec said "my father said you have 3 sons and are trying for a 4th" Beckham "smiles". Kid says "my father says wow they're as good as rabbits!" or something to that extent...lol made me laugh like hell. And he was also laughing. H was damn sweet to them though.

i told u how i'd prefer to celebrate ;-) u game?! :D

Anonymous said...

I didn't say Man U is out of FA cup!! I just asked what happened to the FA cup..Man U vs Chelsea I just hope Man U wins.And Real Madrid will always have that title, only that chelsea are providing them with a little bit of competition, though they have a long way to go. oh, I didn't know that those 3 weren't playing, though I don't think Ballack and Shevchenko would have made much of a difference as they haven't been in great form, since their transfers.
Lol I know that interview was really cute. And that part when ant/dec asks" my dad/mom says you have 78 caps, why do you need so many caps? " and he says "when you play for england you get that many" or something like that and that part where one kid says "you signed a contract for 75 pounds" and the other kid says" 75 million pounds" and the first kid exclaims and says that's nice or something like that and he again laughs. lol!
to celebrate, Pirates of the caribbean fine but beer-- You are 20 but I'm 15 so nope. :D

Div said...

suk - yeah i rmbr those lines from the interview!! Damn cute :) True ballack hasn been in form. Btw, he was on my list for the smiles :) i had a nice pic! The one i put in your ppt. Even i hope manu wins!!! I hope drogba doesn play that match! :D But one has to accept that drogba is good, really good. He's been chelsea's treasure this season...

funnily, i never realised u're 15!!! i thot u were still 13 :) Silly me. We forget that we're not the only people aging. God, vayasu aidthu!

Real madrid, with the exception of ruud VanNistelroy, stll remains a money pit, with world class talent, but zero outcome! *sigh*

Anonymous said...

Yeah I agree Drogba is really good. But then only drogba is good, lampard-has been out of form since the WC, terry- did well in the WC but I don't think he's that great now and ofcourse Ballack and shevchenko.
But Man U has ronaldo,rooney and giggs apart from other ok players like ferdinand so I'm hoping they'll win.
And yeah except for Van nistlerooy no one's been good. Though Raul has been playing good. I like Raul :)
And yes Real madrid World's greatest money pit with tons of talent but zero outcome. Off-late- champions trophy and WC, even BCCI has been like that, it has an Indian Cricket Team with tons of talent but zero outcome. :| But you know they have won a record 9 seasons(I think) but that's past.
I know I know I'm 15!! Ok for the celebration no.. we'll wait till the UEFA cup, if Liverpool wins, then I'll give you a treat and if AC Milan wins I'll still give you a treat(as b'day treat) but then you'll have to give me a treat too. And then is Man U wins FA Cup, we'll ask Lavanya to treat us :D:D:D

Div said...

suk - So either ways, we're both getting treated!!! ;-) Raul has been the darling of Real, period! Beckham had to change his jersey number from 7 just because Raul had 7 in Real. I watched the ManU vs Chelsea match yesterday... most of the main players were being rested for the FA cup finals, so it wasn so interesting. BUt there were 2 or 3 instances where chelsea came so close to scoring! MY heart skipped a beat...all the were corners...they have some good stuff. ManU'll have to work hard to grab the FA cup, considering chelsea played well even with their main players (including drogba) missing. Shevchenko is not playin the finals. Real might have won a record n all...i guess the more they started buyin world class players, the worse they got! But i hear cannavaro has been playing very well there. Apparently he hasn got a single yellow card, and he's just the same wall he was during WC :) Info from nilesh, who btw has finally found eternal love - soccer!

Anonymous said...

lol, eternal love-soccer. And yes Raul is darling of Real and darling of spain. Yeah I know Beckham had to give up the no. 7 jersey.
Main players were missing for Man U or Chelsea or both? I'll tell you my latest superstition- Every team I support loses. In the WC- Argentina lost against Germany, France against Italy, England against Portugal, Man U against AC Milan, ok there are alot of instances where this hasn't happened and I just hope FA Cup and UEFA Cup would be such instances.
lol, maybe that's true, more world class players, more they lose, but the thing is, people still go there! Hmm.. not a single yellow card for a defender is really good, looks like Cannavaro is one player who hasn't lost his form. And why isn't Shevchenko playing the finals? You know after VAn nistleroy went to REaly Madrid, I thought Man U were done for, now it looks like they are having their best season ever. 1 semi final and 1 final and 1 cup, out of 3 tournaments, not bad at all.
And yes either way we're being treated :D:D

Div said...

suk - superstitions wear off in a while :) the ones that stick are the ones i mentioned in 'yours superstitiously"!!! Shevchenko is not playin cuz he's undergoing a groin surgery. Cannavaro rocks :) Apparently he's grown his hair! need to see him play sometime. But Real is out of UEFA and just abt everything, so not for now i guess. I thot the same thing abt manU... but well, they're doing great! Though rooney hasn played well in a single match i've watched of manu or england! So am yet to believe he's good. :P

Anonymous said...

you know it seems Rooney wrote the autobiography where he didn't mention much about Man U or Alex fugerson and everybody was surprised or something anyway rooney is supposed to be a good player. btw, who's captain of man u?giggs? yeah I saw cannavaro with long hair he looks much better, def. not as old as he used to with an almost bald head.

Div said...

i want to see cannavaro! :( I've NEVER seen rooey play well. He wrote a biography at such a young age? his lifetime lies ahead of him. Weird fellow. and yes, Giggs is captain. He has such dignity u know... i dono, thats the first word that comes to my head when i think 'ryan giggs'. The way he lifted that cup yesterday....... :)

Anonymous said...

well atleast that's what I've heard.
And to see cannavaro go to google images and search, that's what I did.
aaah, I want to see him lifting the cup!

Div said...

i tried google images but am not able to make out if they're new pics or the old ones... cuz he had long hair during '02 WC. why don u send me a link :D

And u can google giggs n the cup :)